Mental Health

Discussion in 'Yellow Pages' started by domthehornet, Oct 8, 2020.

  1. domthehornet

    domthehornet Moderator Staff Member

    Hello all,

    Hope you all are keeping well.

    As everyone knows we are all in a very unusual situation with COVID-19 and it's affects on day to day life.

    I would like to extend an invite to anyone who feels that they are struggling at this moment to feel free to DM if they want a chat. It's tough out there at the moment and no one should feel like they are alone.

    Take care.

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  2. domthehornet

    domthehornet Moderator Staff Member

    Merry Christmas all.

    If anyone is feeling low today, please do not be afraid to message.

    You are not alone.

  3. domthehornet

    domthehornet Moderator Staff Member

    Morning all,

    Hope everyone is cooking well.

    We've decided as a team to move the thread to somewhere as to where peoe can talk about the journey in a safe place.

    I personally have struggled with my mental health over the years be it being an anxious teenager to being in a very abusive relationship with a suicidal partner. The thing I have learnt is when things look at their bleakest, it will always get better. It takes time but you will come out of it a better person.

    The first step is always the hardest but most rewarding.
  4. Davy Crockett

    Davy Crockett Reservist

    As DTH has already said . If you are struggling just reach out. Even to me . I promise I will listen .
  5. domthehornet

    domthehornet Moderator Staff Member

    Thanks Davy, very kind of you.
  6. SkylaRose

    SkylaRose Administrator Staff Member

    I've suffered from psychotic depression for a bout 14 years. I do take medication and I generally have a stable mental health team who see me once a month. Mental illness has sort of been a fixture in my family blood line it pains me to say. My elder sister (I shall of course mention no names) has suffered from a form of Schizophrenia almost all her adult years, but like me, is coping well overall. I think whatever people may think of the NHS in general, they do an amazing job in helping people. It wound me up when the Government shafted them for their pay rise request - because Covid more or less had the NHS on their knees, and thank god the vast majority of the good people of this country did abide by the rules Bojo put in place, be it rightly or wrongly in people's minds. Health, be it mental or otherwise is the most important part of our lives - I actually hold it above Family in this regard.

    Just wanted to break the ice on this thread a little. Hope everyone takes care of themselves and each other.
  7. scummybear

    scummybear Reservist

    A very brave post, Skyla. I'm glad you're coping well and too right about the NHS, I think the underfunding in the mental health sector is even worse than in the 'traditional' sectors. Historically it was looked upon as less important than physical illness and hence is still well behind.

    I think for people to feel safe opening up in a thread like this there needs to very strict rules on the forum, such as any personal information posted on this thread is to remain in this thread only and anybody who uses it in a slanderous way gets an instant week ban, with no exceptions. That said, the more of us that tell our own stories the more likely somebody who needs help is to reach out.

    Personally I've been exposed to MH issues all my life. My auntie was sectioned when I was a child, was deemed to have recovered so was released and a week later committed suicide - the effects of which still ripple through my family now, 20 years later. Most of my family do/have suffered from depression, whilst I've dodged it myself it does mean I've become accustomed to communicating with people who are struggling. On the night we beat Fulham 5-0 away in our promotion season I spent the evening negotiating a knife from my suicidal mother, so what was an incredible night for most Watford fans was one of the worst of my life.

    As for my own health, I go to counseling once a week for an attachment issue I have, caused by childhood trauma. Basically I'm perfectly confident and comfortable in social situations, making new friends and work environments, but when it comes to romantic relationships I get PTSD and act in completely irrational ways. But I'm making progress, so it's all good.

    Anyway, that's enough about me. If anybody on here needs somebody to talk to, needs to vent or just needs a distraction then my DMs are always open. I might even give you a free structural engineering quote...
  8. SkylaRose

    SkylaRose Administrator Staff Member

    I'll echo what you and others have said regarding what I put. It is certainly brave to open up about personal troubles. This of course is not a medical forum, neither should it be used as vital support forum. There are places people can
    get help if they are really struggling. What this thread is all about is to allow people to offer a gentle virtual "arm around the shoulder" so to speak. It's not a place to vent deep issues either and I am also sure that the members of this
    forum are mature enough to act as adults and not mention real names of people or medications etc. In regard to what you said, again thank you for sharing - and I hope you continue to improve in these difficult situations throughout
    your life.

    Skyla x
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  9. Cthulhu

    Cthulhu Keyboard Warrior Staff Member

    1 in 4 people will suffer from a mental health problem every year. Whether that’s depression, anxiety, loss of a loved one, psychosis or whatever else

    So next time you sit down at the Vic a whole one of those stands worth of people probably had some sort of difficulty

    It may not be obvious to us but it is there.
    And stigma is real.

    I honestly feel if GT was still with us he would be championing this as a cause. Because he was a genuinely kind, empathic man who cared.
    Let’s be like him.
  10. HeiaWatford

    HeiaWatford First Year Pro

    Very well put. I often contemplate things like this on a regular basis.

    What I do think is that we have lost respect for one another. I believe respect is the most powerful word out there. My Dad was a man of very few words but he instilled in me two things in my early years. Treat people how you expect to be treated yourself and there is nobody better than you and that you're no better than anyone else. Two simple things but I still stand by those being very powerful statements that I completely agree with.

    Myself I went through I'd say 10 years of depression after failed surgeries that left me bedridden for months on end. It totally consumed me in every aspect in my life affecting everyone around me. I can honestly say I never saw this until many years later. I still reflect back on this and cant believe how bad I really was. Nothing I want to discuss here but it still amazes me how my family is still together, very dark days indeed.

    But what I will say which I believe is very difficult for men especially of my age is to try and talk about how you're feeling. There are people who want to listen and to help. Speaking about it is was the start of a very long journey personally for me to get me out of the darkness. So please don't be afraid because you will not be judged.
  11. Arakel

    Arakel First Team

    Quite, although I would modify this to "of any age". Unfortunately the vast majority of world societies have their own version of the British "stiff upper lip". The upshot of this is that men are expected to push their feelings down, not express them, and suffer in silence (with suffer being the operative word).

    I had a pretty horrific experience when I was 17 (not going to go into details, it's really not appropriate for an open forum), and survived a situation which resulted in me seeing two friends die and one end up in hospital in a coma for weeks. He then carried long term brain damage into his adulthood.

    By some miracle I wasn't injured, but I did remember everything and that caused me serious PTSD and severe depression that it took me years to recover from. As a male teenager it was especially difficult to get help, and the enduring memory I have of that period is how people treat you like a leper when you're already struggling just to find a reason for living on a daily basis. I don't think it's malicious, but the impact is enormous and I think society would be well served by raising awareness of what treating people like that does to those who are already barely getting by.

    It is important to get help if need it, though. Keep asking until you find someone who will. It's the hardest thing in the world at the time, but for most it's probably the only way you can start to get your life back on track.
  12. BigRossLittleRoss

    BigRossLittleRoss First Team

    Hey Dom, can you point me to where this thread has been moved to, as stated. Thanks
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    cyaninternetdog Forum Hippie

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